Dear Andrea,

I'm in a rough patch at the moment. I literally feel alone. I've always been the good girl-never doing anything that would be considered inappropriate. Sometimes though, it feels like no one cares and that I am abandoned by the cool kids living on the edge. Sometimes I wonder if there are any other kids that are actually doing what is right. Am I really one of a few that are in hiding?

Lonely

Dear Lonely,
 
No, you are not alone.  Yes there are still some true-blue Apostolic Girls and Guys out there who love the Lord and desire to serve Him more than anything.  There are also a lot of humans who are bound to make mistakes.  I agree with you that there are a lot of youth who live as close as they can to the edge.  I'm not sure why this is but I do know that when you are young there is a great deal of pressure to fit in.  All young people are trying to "find their place."  Sometimes this causes them to do very silly things.  But if they have a heart for God, He will deal with them.   Live for and love God not because you "have to" but because it has become your desire to.  If you are serving Him with all your heart then I ask that you please pray for and don't judge those who are struggling.  Be proud of yourself for standing strong but don't be proud. You will be a light that unsaved young people will remember as being steadfast and unmovable.  This kind of high compliment is earned.  If you are the only one in your class or in your high school, then be that one and do it with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength. 

Dear Andrea,

This question may strike you as strange, but our youth pastor's wife had a sleepover for the young ladies in our church. She wanted to address a few issues that she considered a possible threat to the girls in our group. The one issue she addressed was wearing certain types of undergarments made of certain materials and such! She insisted wearing these pieces would bring about a bad spirit! This struck me as unusual and I was wanting your thoughts on this.

Curious

Dear Curious,
 
I understand your confusion as this is something that is not ordinarily spoken.  You are ultimately responsible for how you live your life when no one is watching.  What you wear that no one sees or is supposed to see is going to be your decision.  However, if your Youth Pastor's wife has made a point to bring out that these types of undergarments can lead to other things then she may have dealt with it in the past or is just taking extra precaution to keep her young ladies safe.  I do not believe there is black and white to say that these types of materials are wrong.  My personal opinion coincides with that of your Youth Pastor's wife. 

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